Most people live lives in consistent and complete distraction...because it is easy...distraction from themselves because to think about who you are is hard and uncomfortable. They can't let go of people, possessions or experiences because then they'd feel alone and have to face themselves. If you keep doing what you have always done, you'll keep getting what you always got. Isolate yourself and discover your truth. For me, I enjoy the isolation because I like myself but, now, I struggle with connecting to people, possessions and experiences. Is this worse than not knowing my truth? What am I protecting my heart from? Perhaps I feel that if you are not even vulnerable with yourself, then you don't deserve to be vulnerable with me.

When we say everything is possible, that means that both evil and good are indeed possible. Some people view their evil acts as a path to good.  I bring this up in context of trying to explain the violence and the racism that has been highlighted recently but that has always existed throughout the world.  We struggle to explain it.  We also cannot explain atrocities such as the Holocaust and the Rwandan genocide. 

What we can do is focus on individuals.  We can focus on ourselves and rather than looking outward, we can look inward to ask a few simple questions.  Have I evolved? Have I learned? Why must we divide our species like this?  What is the cost to humanity of my thoughts and subsequent actions? 

Eliezer Wiesel says we must always think higher and feel deeper.  Where have your thoughts gone today - where do your thoughts go as you live?  What do you do?   The key is to simplify your thoughts and actions to small kind acts.  Don't allow complicating thoughts to confuse you.  You have a responsibility to simplistically act in manners that increase human survivability.   

Start by simply saying or acting like you care.  The moments I look back on the most (with regret) are the moments where I communicated to someone that I simply did not care.  And in that moment surely they thought, does someone care?  Does anyone care?  The thought that you don't matter can lead you to think that you are invisible and your memory is non-existent to others. 

With the recent violent events in the news, one might notice that death has become a business for news agencies.  Death is sensational and everyone wants to have an answer, but what questions do recent events present YOU with?  What do you ask yourself about yourself?  Do you listen to the experiences of both sides?  Do you watch the experiences of both sides?  What do you choose to become a witness to?  What do you claim as your answer?  Do you engage in open discussion about the blatant indifference to anyone?  Are you indifferent to others in your day to day experiences?  Are you indifferent to anyone - the drug user, the felon, the poor?

Human beings matter and we all bear witness to the experience of the human being.  We can all be a little less demanding and a little more caring.  Every moment is the beginning of something and we can choose in each moment to be a part of something good.  We can think higher and feel deeper.

Being everything for someone or multiple people can sometimes feel like being the nothing for yourself.  Do you know someone who is empty and abuses the meaning of love is selfless and the meaning of love is not selfish?  They stretch it to mean you will also have to make up for all the areas they have failed to do the work in.  You may notice that this person is always unhappy no matter what you do.  They seem unfulfilled and always left wanting more.  Is it you?

So see, when you are alone sometime, ask yourself - who am I? What makes me happy? What about myself am I unhappy about?  Answer the questions relative to you - not anyone else.  Then establish an action you can take to address your area of unhappiness.  You may need to write several actions for more than one area. 

​For example:
​I am a beautiful, confident, intelligent, and determined woman. 
I am happy when I take walks. 
​I am not happy when I don't take a little time for myself.
​I will schedule time outs for myself for at least one hour per week.

​Put yourself in the driver's seat.

​You could have said - I am a wonderful wife and mother.  I am happy when I spend time with my husband.  I am not happy when my coworker tries to boss me around.  I will find a new job.

​But that's too relative.  Take control back and do the work.  No one can replace the lack of self love.