In Chapter 2 of Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg discusses the most common reaction of women to praise: self-doubt. Self-doubt is a form of self-defense. We doubt ourselves so we can beat others to the punch and so we can increase the odds of being liked. We shy away from praise due to feelings of guilt about the accomplishments we have worked so hard to achieve.
The #NowBelieveIt video shows how to respond differently and confidently to praise. Instead of underestimating ourselves, we can choose to believe the praise being offered and use it to propel us even further.
As women, we tend to attribute failure to a lack of ability and credit success globally. We have to learn to assess our abilities in a realistic manner Credit women for their achievements instead of always looking for all the external contributing factors.
Guide yourself with an affirmation:
I believe in my skills and abilities. Although I face scenarios that may stretch my capabilities, I am not always headed in a negative trajectory. My success comes from hard work. It also comes from help from others. I am grateful to those who give me opportunities and support me. I believe in myself! I will welcome those who encourage, promote and champion me and I will demonstrate this behavior towards others.
Challenge the notion that you are always headed in a negative trajectory. Be confident in taking risks and put yourself forward.
Sit at the table!
Ms. Bhakti Mary
I am an optimistic, positive, generous and driven author who is passionate about self-improvement.
The essence of who you are does not lie in the past. What matters is what you are willing to do NOW. You are the presence.